Thursday, May 29, 2008
The Fieldgrinhousers
Sunday, May 18, 2008
Youth Convo Los Angeles
Growing Groups, for Small Group Facilitating... An interesting topic for the situation, but the magic of those groups was evident. Laughs to tears, many great things shared.
Friday, May 16, 2008
The Youth Ministry Rant
A great group from CERT school number 51 in Dubuque, IA! After hanging out with this wonderful crew for three days I finished up the following thoughts...
“D@#$%! Soccer”
“*&^%$ Dance Line”
“^&*(# Marching Band”
“!@#$% Football, basketball, hockey, debate, and let’s not forget the chess team or whatever else is getting in the way of my (Oops, I mean) their first priority, which centers around being at my (there I go again) their church programs. What are their parents teaching anyway?!!!”
I hear forms of this lament everywhere I go. “I just had to cancel another event because my kids are too busy,” I am told this often by those who work with kids in the church. Big church, small church, big town, little town, it doesn’t matter; the kids and their parents are overly busy with a smorgasbord of opportunities that leaves little time for one more church event.
But… What if! (I personally love those words.) What if the soccer team, dance line, marching band and chess team are exactly where kids belong as ministers? What if we stopped seeing events as the competition, the enemy, and saw the relationships formed in the midst of teams, casts, and bands as the very places real youth ministry happens? What if youth, wherever they are, and whoever they are with, are living what we call youth ministry? What if the congregation is primarily an equipping and supportive place for youth to be Peer Ministers?
If I am honest about my youth ministry scorecard I have to realize that kids showing up at meetings or events are not a measurement of success, no matter how much fun they have. My real desired outcomes are kids who live with a vibrant faith that cares and welcomes all people, in all places, and at all times as a results of being loved and graced by God.
Here is how it might work! Granted, you have to gather kids to equip them, and you will still need adults who will train and support kids. Kids participate in Peer Ministry training they complete the training, they move into the phase of being supported and resourced by their leaders. What if, when your kids are busily engaged with the demands of all those other programs and places, you and your adult leaders each called kids and asked questions like:
“How is your ministry going?”
“How have you been using your skills this week?”
“What are the issues that you are most concerned about?”
“What support or resources or people can I guide you to?”
“What can I pray for you this week?”
One group tallied the number of times and topics their 16 Peer Ministers reported over a semester. The group reported over 2,000 times they used Peer Ministry skills! Let me emphasize this again, over 2,000 times they said they used the skills of caring and welcoming their neighbor. After sharing this, one skeptic said, “I suppose after awhile they think every conversation is a Peer Ministry conversation.”
I just smiled. “Wouldn’t that be too bad?” What if kids understood that God was part of every conversation and every relationship. “Hmmmm…,” wouldn’t I want these Peer Ministers hanging out with the sports teams, art departments, and chests teams?
Just by making such calls kids, get the message that we assume they already are ministers. This alone begins to change the view kids have about Christian leadership and ministry. Leadership would no longer be just about microphones and committees, the images constantly presented by those of us who speak, preach, sing, teach, and those of us who gather for meeting after meeting, necessary tasks but, not the whole ministry. Microphones and committees work best when they empower people to leave the room and go and do ministry in the midst of the everyday activities.
If your congregation is ranting and lamenting that kids are too busy to come, then maybe it is time to rethink the youth ministry scorecard. Help kids discover that the very things they are most concerned about, their relationships, are ministry. We just forgot to tell them. Now, maybe it is time.
Peer Ministry
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Who train your youth,
Who use Peer Ministry skills every day, in every relationship.
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From The Youth & Family Institute
Monday, May 12, 2008
New Orleans Full Moon
- Senses a calling for youth ministry
- Is growing in your theology and practices of faith
- Is excited by being with high school youth
- Engaging and confident voice that commands and energizes a group of 45
- Has a confident, welcoming, life affirming personality
- Listens carefully to concerns and can help problem solve
- Can “think on your feet”
- Learn names quickly
- Has experience with small group facilitating skills
- Has an interest in justice issues
- Be okay with not having all the answers.
- Is able to listen and wonder with youth about ambiguous ideas of theology and sociological issues
- Is humble, dependable and above all flexible. –The Gumby Pledge!
Preservation Hall
"I think it is very visual," in contrast to a comment made that jazz didn't need to be seen! Preservation Hall was way to crowded for the numbers they let in. Somehow, I managed to crouch down by the entrance the musicians walked in through. My ankles hurt as I knelt observing the old weathered and warn floor boards. The building was built originally as a home in the French Quarter in 1750. Since the mid 60's the room has been filled with the nostalgia of the famous old New Orleans Jazz sounds.
Saturday, March 22, 2008
Spring?
The Human Race
Palm Sunday...
Monday, March 10, 2008
Victory Memorial Parkway
First time in a month? --- Moving rather did me in for a while. Okay that sub zero weather was not very motivating either. I now have new places to go out the door and run. Victory Memorial Parkway which is part of the Grand Rounds, part of a loop of about 50 miles of trails for hiking, biking and driving along in Minneapolis. Hope to bike most of it this summer.
Friday, February 22, 2008
Good Bye 3413!
Thursday, February 21, 2008
Eclipse
The last night in the house, camping on the floor, but sitting in the hot tub I got to watch the full eclipse of the moon.
Tuesday, February 19, 2008
Texas Pilot
Great time in Texas as Tom Schwolert and I tried out some new material.
Sunday, February 03, 2008
Words
Henry Nouwen’s words capture me. “Silence is the home of the word.” (The Way of the Heart -p.48) He speaks of living in a society that surrounds us with a constant collage of words. Since Nouwen wrote about billboards and radios, we have added the computer, cell phones, i-pods, email, text-messaging and and and and... ! Marketers of words compete for their words to be brighter, louder, more impacting, to be seen more often, to be more shocking, dynamic, and to be every where. Watch the advertisers of the Super Bowl this afternoon. Modern living now means living in a constant flow of words.
Just listen for the silence! Silence is no longer to be heard. If there is a place for silence, someone is inventing new ways to fill it with their own words. Ask people to be silent. We don’t know what to do with it. It makes us nervous, even mad that someone should suggest there be silence.
Words alone may not be such an evil, but Nouwen points out that too many of them cheapens their use. We say, “They are just words.” Words loose their impact. Religion has become mostly about words. Religion is about telling, teaching, persuading and preaching. So many religious words in books, on TV, radio, in pop Christian music, sermons, magazines, and maybe too many, maybe so many that most everyone says, “They are just words.” No one really listens. No one really hears.
I am one of them. Confession time. I make my living off of religious words, training, speaking, writing, and I sell my words. I do believe in my words, and believe that my words are good words, but recognize that the impact of my words are often just more words. Faith may be less about saying words, and more about listening. Listening to each others hearts, listening in silence, listening in ways that words stop monkeying and mucking up our brains.
“In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.” –John 1:1 Out of silence words are born. Out of silence the world was born. Out of silence, away from all other words we born again and again in new ways of knowing the Word.
Saturday, February 02, 2008
New Home Needed!
Tuesday, January 29, 2008
Birds
I don't what to say about them. Morning run in New Orleans. There they were all lined up for a picture.
Monday, January 28, 2008
Bourbon Street
A night on in New Orleans.
Sunday, January 13, 2008
DaySpring
In January, if you have to work away from Minnesota, it may as well be in Florida. DaySpring, an Episcopal retreat center, where I am training a group of adults for Peer Ministry.
Saturday, January 05, 2008
WinterWhispers
An afternoon run while the house is being shown. A quite peaceful winter path with only a few whispers from the stream and a lazy wind rattling a few brown dried leaves that still hang in a tree.
After Christmas Run
No cards out this year, but a very blessed Christmas. Added the stresses of houses for sale and wondering what a new year will bring. Wally sports his casts with Grandkids surrounding. Andrea and I venture together to share new experiences with family Christmas gathering. And... I find some quite time after it all in to get a reflective winter run in.